Mind of a depressed
Every time when we see a news about someone committed suicide,
We think that
1. He/she was a coward/fool.
2. Did not have the courage to face life.
3. Could have thought about his/her family once before taking this decision.
4. Maybe if he/she asked, I could have helped.
In this society there are some misconceptions:
1. Men should not cry.
2. Women are weak.
3. If a person shares his/her problems they are treated as weak.
Men may have strong body but mentally they are weak but women are mentally strong. Many men hide their feelings, there are so many untold stories. They sometimes cry alone in the dark, in the bathroom, under blanket but not infront his partner/parents/children. A guy/girl who do not have a personal space in the home suffers a lot because they are not able to vent out their feelings and one day it bursts out infront of their parents or friends.
No one is ready to sit and talk about their problems because they may not find the right person or feels other would think they are weak or sometimes feels embarrassment.
We don't talk to our parents about our problems. We don't share most of feelings/desire with them. There will always be an invisible line between parents and their children. Sometimes the parents are too strict or too friendly with their children.
We sometimes share our problems with our friends but unfortunately they also don't not know what to do or they would try to help but sometimes it ends in disaster. Everyone has time to talk gossips, party, do unwanted things and talk about someone's problem but will not talk about their problems.
When the behaviour of a person change suddenly, people starts complaining but nobody notices why there is a change. They don't ask what happened but start ignoring.
It's not that easy to kill oneself, it takes lot of courage. Thoughts about parents, siblings, love life, work, loans would pictured in the mind. But it will be confused with mixed emotions of good and the bad experiences of the past. Would not know what to do, they try to think for alternative but the bad experiences, humiliation, failures, many times it's a person who left them whom they wanted in their life forever. These thoughts take over the mind and they finally give up on everything and move on with their decision or pushed towards suicide.
Dear Brother,
ReplyDeleteThere are many truths to your writing and I agree with it. There is no alternative for the person who is imperative to us, and I second you with that.
I still do not agree though, that suicide is a courageous act. We move our life from the momentary conscious acts of people around us, unaware of the larger plan the universe has for us.
It is not that people do not want to share their problems and emotions, but we are all looking for a valid answer, which is gratifying to our existing desires. God or Universe, whatever you believe in doesn't offer that - Instant Gratification.
We all DESERVE that pure and honest love, that we can run into every time to vent out our emotions of pain and happiness. We deserve the chance to prove ourselves and to walk beyond the struggles and find tiny successes. We deserve the happiness that comes through along. We all deserve it.
But with all that, what we "deserve" is a BREAK, a break from the daily stress and a constant thought that we need to prove to this world that we are unbreakable super beings. We are vulnerable, we need some time to recharge before we could support others.
Physical exercise and Meditation has proved to counter depression and it works.
Just we all need to push ourselves a little longer thru life, to find what we deserved and not just our desires. I firmly believe there is a better choice made by the universe for every one which we truly deserve.
P.S. You can talk to me anytime you want to, if you want a listening ear.